Friday Nights at Café Blue

It is a Friday night. My best friend, Darien Robertson, and I have made plans to meet-up at one of our treasured spots to catch-up about the happenings in our lives. Upon opening the doors of Café Blue, I am instantly reminded of comfort, coffee and camaraderie.

I am thrilled to see Darien. Our schedules sometimes clash, with Darien being a professional photographer and me working on a multiplicity of projects. I am always elated when we get to hang out.

The first order of business though, is to order beverages.

Some like it hot, Some like it cold

My eyes tend to stray to the cold drinks section of the Café Blue menu. Usually, I order the Mochaccino however, tonight I feel like trying something new so, I get a Blueccino. This is delicious by the way. Darien, on the other hand, typically orders the hot beverage; a medium Mocha to be exact.


We then seat ourselves and dive into conversation. The smoothing music that plays in the background helps with the ambiance and builds a cozy vibe.

Mid-conversation, we are greeted with the drinks we ordered. We issue our thanks to the gracious lady that provided them.


Darien and I then proceed with our conversation. We share our immediate goals, jokes and things that we find interesting.

Time truly flies when you are in good company. Before we know it, it is closing time.

With memories of tonight’s proceedings intact, we bid the café a farewell until another Friday when it will all happen again.




Musings – “Though Imperfect, I Will Rise”

IMG_2073I am not perfect.

I embrace this.

I am this.

But, that will not stop me from

Doing better,

Being better because,

I know my capabilities.

I know what I deserve.

My goals? My aspirations?

I will grow to reach each and every one of them.

While, being this

Imperfect.  ~ Karelilyy

The Hair Journey – My Plan to Growing Healthy Natural Hair Part I


In my previous post, Beginnings of a Natural Hair Journey, I expressed my intentions to grow my hair as long and as healthy as possible. Due to unforeseen big-chops throughout the years (mainly from bleaching or flat ironing my hair), I experienced setbacks which countered my hair goals.

In this post, I will outline some of the activities that I will enforce to achieve the aforementioned goals.




The Plan

  • Snip Snip ✂

To some, trimming my hair may seem like a counter-productive approach considering my previous declaration. The gag is, healthy ends are mandatory to achieve hair growth, well… because split ends.

I want to start this journey with healthy hair, which will put me in a better position to attain growth. However, I will not go about this in a reckless manner (i.e. chop all my hair off because I’m scissor happy lol). My intention is to trim just about ¼ inch off.

  • Diet 🍴

I am going to revamp my diet. My aim is to eat well-balanced meals, that contain vitamins and minerals that supports hair growth. This includes Biotin, Niacin, Vitamins A, E & C and Iron, to name a few. I have decided to reincorporate supplements into my diet, in order to ensure that I consume enough nutrients to not only grow my hair but, for general health purposes.

I also plan on increasing my water intake to at least one half of a gallon, daily.

  • Exercise 🏋

Exercise is known to be good for increasing blood flow and circulation within our bodies. This also has a positive effect on our scalp in that, an increase in blood flow and circulation means that more nutrients and oxygen will be delivered to our hair follicles. The nourishment this process provides encourages hair growth.

I have read that scalp massages offer a similar effect on hair growth, as with exercising. I will  perform scalp massages for at least three times within my week.

Side note, I find this to be incredibly relaxing.

  • Adequate Sleep 😴

This is the kicker. Personally,  going to my bed early has always been a challenge for me. However, I will commit to making greater effort in getting sufficient sleep per night. Sleep is crucial for cell regeneration / renewal. I read that during sleep, protein synthesis occurs which is basically when our cells produce new proteins. Hair is made out of protein. It was therefore suggested that for hair to grow optimally, adequate sleep is required.

In part II, I will share my preferred hair routine to achieve my hair goals.

Stay tuned.




Self-Care Sundays — Invest in You



For a period of my life, I embraced complacency. Mind you, I had certain goals and aspirations that I was excited for mentally but, did little to nothing to achieve. That became my problem. Over time, I fell down the proverbial rabbit hole and became more and more dissatisfied with how my life was going. Until one day, I then realized that my reality could change at any moment IF I DECIDED to change. This paradigm shift was a game-changer for me. I learnt that I must take action in achieving my goals and that I must work on those things that are within my control. If I do my part, things will fall into place.

How am I Changing?

  • I Make a Decision

I decided that I would no longer settle for mediocrity. I know what I want to achieve and I know the required effort that it will take to accomplish my goals. Partial efforts lead to partial results. I therefore decided to commit to my goals 100%.

  •  I Read Books / Watch Videos / Listen to Podcasts

I stimulate my mind with uplifting books that will not only encourage me, but will give me tactics that I can implement to realize my goals. Currently, I am doing my best to read at least three books per month.

Secondly, I watch inspirational YouTube videos and listen to podcasts on a daily basis as sources of constant motivation.

  • I Make a Plan

Personally, I find to-do lists to be a highly effective mechanism to keep me on track of what I want to accomplish. I write down each goal and then break them down into smaller practicable tasks. To ensure that I make time to engage these tasks, I also assign them within my weekly schedule.

  • I Take Action

I understand now, that it is through consistent action that we will attain our goals. My aspiration is that each day, I will do just one small thing that will propel me forward on the path that I want to go. I subscribe to the Tanzanian proverb “little by little, a little becomes a lot”. Thus, it is through constant effort that we will accomplish our goals.

Keep Striving.



Beginnings of a Natural Hair Journey


On my natural hair journey (aka a term naturalista’s use when they decide to implement healthy hair-care practices to achieve a specific hair goal, which is usually length related), I have big chopped twice and transitioned once. With that being said, I have never witnessed my hair grow beyond armpit length (when stretched). It really is not that serious but I have always wanted to know how long my hair could grow.

This has been my ultimate goal since the inception of my natural hair journey. This goal has derailed due to bouts of spontaneity, which I tend to get at the ‘almost two years post big-chop mark’, where I conjure up the bright idea to get my hair either bleached/coloured or flat-ironed.

This usually ends with me cutting my hair off and starting over because, well… damage.

Yay me.


Being the optimist that I am, I have decided to learn from past decisions and to forge forward by embarking on a new natural hair journey.

In future posts, I will share tips and tidbits of what I am doing to achieve my hair goals.

Stay tuned. Grow with me.